“A man’s life was five dogs long, Cortland believed. The first was the one that taught you. The second was the one you taught. The third and fourth were the ones you worked. The last was the one that outlived you.” Stephen King, UR
The first was the one that taught you…
Tasha was my first dog. I mean, there were pets around when I was a kid – but those belonged to my parents. I loved them, but Tasha was mine from the time I got her as a rambunctious puppy until…..two days ago.
Tasha taught me about unconditional love. It didn’t matter whether I had a good day or bad. Whether I was fat or skinny. Good looking or ugly. Tasha didn’t care. Every time I looked at her, she would wag her tail. I didn’t have to say or do anything at all.
And she was happy.
All she wanted was my undivided attention. A scratch behind the ear. Her right ear. Looking back, I’m not sure I gave her that often enough. But I’d give anything to feel her cold nose nudging my hand and to pet her just one more time.
Death works on it’s own time. And it’s a cruel fact that a man’s life is five dogs long. Tasha’s goodbye was sudden and unexpected. And because I couldn’t fathom the possibility of her being gone, I took off for work Monday morning thinking I’d see her on Wednesday night.
I never got that chance.
I thought it would take a while for things to get back to normal. But now I’m realizing that there is no back to normal. There’s just a hole that it seems nothing can fill. Maybe there will be a new normal, someday.
I know this is a bit personal, but the message here is simple. Life is short. Those you love can suddenly be gone from your life and you don’t want to be filled with regret. Spend your time wisely. Remember what’s really important.
And it probably isn’t that TPS Report.
See ya at the Rainbow Bridge Tasha.
I miss you.
Melissa Adamo
April 12, 2012 2:07 PMThe pain doesnt go away, sadly, you just get used to it. Thoughts of better times will get you through. Sorry for your loss.
Brenden Wright
April 17, 2012 6:24 PMThanks Melissa. Appreciate the thoughts.
Patti Spino
April 12, 2012 2:13 PMYou are so right- live and love hard!!! See ya’ll at rainbow bridge! 🙂
Linda
April 12, 2012 2:42 PMOh B that was very sweet and personal. There is no love like the love of a pet. I am sorry for your loss. Tasha was awesome! Words to live by ” Life is short. Those you love can suddenly be gone from your life and you don’t want to be filled with regret. Spend your time wisely. Remember what’s really important.”
Brenden Wright
April 17, 2012 6:24 PMThanks Linda.
Mandy
April 12, 2012 3:12 PMGreat post Brenden and oh so true!
Dzhara
June 7, 2013 9:52 AMDear Brenden,
Thank you for the great post! I’m very sorry for your loss…
My dog Robin also died over a year ago and sometimes it comes to me in my dreams, barking and acting like it’s real and alive. Sad but true, this hole will probably never grow.
Brenden Wright
June 24, 2013 12:21 PMVery sorry for you loss as well. Dogs (and other pets) really are part of the family. It’s devastating for everyone when we lose them.